On the weekend, we took the kids to the Zoo for their birthday. Originally it was just gonna be the 4 of us but then all the grandparents invited themselves... And my mother in law fucked up... again.
She has a history of not respecting me (and hubby) as parents. At 4 months old she asked to give my son a taste of her dinner, which was peanut satay. I said 'I don't think so'. She did it anyway. At their first birthday, she gave them chocolate without consulting either of us and when I called her up on it and explained why I was so upset (I wanted to see/record their reaction to chocolate for the first time) she told me I was out of line and needed to take a long hard look at myself in the mirror. And then blamed my dad, who was still recovering from a minor stroke, for not telling her to stop. A couple of months ago we told her that we don't give the kids heated wheat packs in bed because we don't think they are old enough to use them safely. She gives them to them anyway.
At the zoo, she crossed so many lines. I told her not to give my son what he asked for immediately. She did. Both myself and my husband tell her not to keep letting our kids sit in the ride on car because we wany them to see the animals. She then starts asking them if they want turns. Even my mum gets mad at her. She also keeps walking off with my kids without telling me where she's going. After lunch and 30 mins of walking around on my own carrying my bag with no chance to interact with my own damn children, my anxiety reaches the point where I start crying. She looks at me and I go NUTS. Yell at her infront of everyone. Tell her that I want to show MY kids the animals on their first visit to the zoo... her reply: THEY BELONG TO ME TOO.
That makes me see red. I grab both my kids off her and me and hubby leave, me bawling my eyes out.
But, hate IS heavy. So instead of carrying it around, I'm choosing to be done with her. She can work out with hubby how to see the kids. I'll see her at family events. Ill never speak to her on the phone again. I'm not going to her house again. I'm NOT OKAY with someone constantly disrespecting and undermining my authority as a parent to my own kids.