Gaslighting is INCREDIBLY common, and CAN even be done by some well-meaning enablers when they are trying to "help" by idealizing an abuser (viewing them as "good", while ignoring their abusive and manipulative BEHAVIOR) in an effort to stay "safe", or to "avoid" abuse. 😕
It's hard not to take gaslighting personally when someone is attempting to invalidate your feelings or experiences, but I finally RECOGNIZE when someone is still trapped in the F.O.G. (fear, obligation, and guilt) that an abuser triggers in people who have a conscience. 😉 ESPECIALLY if we were traumabonded to an abusive caregiver in our early childhood. 💔
Survivors are taught to ignore our anxiety that is a GIFT that lets us know when we don't feel SAFE, and to sacrifice our own needs to "take care of" someone who CLAIMED to be "taking care of" US! 😕
After making this connection between my childhood, and my other codependentships, I FINALLY began to recognize unhealthy dynamics, and set healthy boundaries with EVERYONE! 🔥💪🏼🦄🔥 My healthy friendships and relationships IMPROVED, and got even STRONGER and HEALTHIER, because the BEST GIFT we can EVER give ANYONE (INCLUDING OURSELVES) is our OWN RECOVERY, and the people who TRULY know HOW to LOVE ABSOLUTELY PROVED that they TRULY LOVE me when I began stepping into my POWER and AUNTHENTICITY! 🔥🔥💜🔥🔥 Some people DID try to convince me that I was "crazy", or that my abuse "didn't happen", and I “need help”, (as well as MANY other gaslighting phrases), but now that I FINALLY know how to identify gaslighting statements, their words as WEAK, and meaningless to me. 😜
I no longer seek anyone else's validation anymore. 😉
I don't NEED for them to BELIEVE me.
I BELIEVE ME! 😘
Gaslighting doesn't work on me ANYMORE. 😊
There are still times where I get triggered to feel unsafe again, but I know how to ground myself now, and I recognize that those feelings are a GIFT that tell my body to LISTEN to what my brain is TELLING me!
And I FINALLY hear me! 😘
XOXO ❤️ Helen